How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen

Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.

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  • Thank you ✌️

    Vishnu BabuRajVishnu BabuRaj2 uur geleden
  • I got really emotional.

    Jày ẞèãstJày ẞèãst5 uur geleden
    • Thank you for sharing this with me Jay!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 uur geleden
  • The best teacher

    King IanKing Ian8 uur geleden
    • Thank you King Ian!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 uur geleden
  • In my experience, women take thing more personal than men. Here is an example: when a man gets fired from his job, he will tell the boss to go eff himself. When a woman gets fired from the job, she leaves crying and in tears. Let that sink in.

    Faustus KraussFaustus Krauss10 uur geleden
    • that's literally just sexist i dont know what you're trying to make sink in

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  • You are good! Just before I have watched this, I was taking personally about my friend disagreement. You saved me from bad thoughts.

    Rahel ArgawRahel Argaw11 uur geleden
    • Hello Rahel, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you after a disagreement with your friend. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 uur geleden
  • Ok🤍✨️

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  • This helped me alot. Today was a rough day

    n8_ cr0f75n8_ cr0f7512 uur geleden
    • Hi there. I hope you're better now.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 uur geleden
  • One of the best.

    Noel ReyesNoel Reyes16 uur geleden
  • I really loved the last line of this Tedx talk

    01 Hitesh Jadhav01 Hitesh JadhavDag geleden
  • You are much appreciated for sharing one of life’s vital lessons. The knowledge gained from your words will have its greatest value when one is able to use wisdom to regularly apply it in their lives. There’s a saying which helps me to remain centered in not taking things personally a majority of the time: Misery loves company. People who are emotionally and mentally weak easily become jealous/envious of people who are stronger than they are in those areas as well as many other areas. When people feel a need to say or do things ‘to’ you, whether they are conscious or not of what their actions will cause, their ego’s goal is to bring you down to the level of pain and suffering it’s experiencing at that point in time. It cannot handle being around people who have it together and are happy most of the time. This is when I shift my focus onto the saying ‘misery loves company’. NEVER take it personally. Instead, see the sufferer as the one who is taking something about you so personally that they would go to great lengths to bring you down in order to prop themselves up. When we can master this, then an even more challenging lesson to master is catching one’s own ego in the act of being the sufferer seeking out company to share in it’s own misery. It must be put in its place. Once we master this lesson, we will no longer play the victim of the ego and, instead, become the victor of our true self. Then, nothing can phase us. We are what we think; therefore, think wisely.

    I AM THE ONEI AM THE ONEDag geleden
    • Thank you for sharing all this. Very strong. thx

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo3 uur geleden
  • I really loved the way you explained will try to apply though I am quite impulsive but will try my best

    md enayet Razamd enayet RazaDag geleden
    • Hello 'Md Enayet Raza', Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

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  • Anyone from rebelpanda?

    Tahsin MahmudTahsin MahmudDag geleden
  • 🔥🔥🔥🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    Curleen RCurleen R2 dagen geleden
    • With pleasure Curleen!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo3 uur geleden
  • Great.. Superb. Last statement was much more encouraging... Deserve much more loud applause. 👏😊

    Nithya SrinivasanNithya Srinivasan2 dagen geleden
    • Hello Nithya, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo3 uur geleden
  • What to do if people laugh at me looking my facial expressions. Please help

    Abhishek Sharma ngrAbhishek Sharma ngr2 dagen geleden
    • Hi Abhishek. Be happy with yourself and your facial expressions. It is who and how you are. Don't let them have power or control over you. Learn to love yourself.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo3 uur geleden
  • Amazing 💙❤

    English with HindEnglish with Hind2 dagen geleden
    • Thank you very much!!!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo3 uur geleden
  • The macabre grip subsequently crash because congo relevantly reach an a innocent tooth. condemned, lively suede

    Jovan KrischeJovan Krische2 dagen geleden
  • Says match is exactly 18 minutes long, actual video is only 17:36.

    ShimmyShimmy3 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo I'll spend it on this comment! I genuinely enjoyed the talk! Already put your advice into practice 😁

      ShimmyShimmyDag geleden
    • Hi Shimmy, you have an eye for details. 24 seconds for you to do what so ever you like.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo2 dagen geleden
  • Just the right words I needed to hear since I will work soon in the hospital. I'll try to do the pep talk part that you did before every game. THIS TED TALK IS GOLDEN!!! Hats off to you sir, I wish you all the best in life!!!

    JamieJamie3 dagen geleden
  • So if someone is shouting at me, they probably took something personally which I didn't mean or its the kind of relationship they have with themselves. Which applies to me too. So, I should not take that personally, otherwise I would have not so good a relationship with myself. Boy! It goes in circles 😯

    SaniaSania3 dagen geleden
    • Absolutely Sania!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo2 dagen geleden
  • Take things personnaly is the worst and dangerous behaviour that we should seriously fight again.. I know what I a m talking about..I paid for my life... Thanks Frederick...You just save the World.

    R3G OluwaR3G Oluwa3 dagen geleden
    • Hello R3G Oluwa, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo2 dagen geleden
  • Thank you.

    Isaac ShinIsaac Shin3 dagen geleden
    • Hi Isaac! With pleasure. Thanks for watching.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo2 dagen geleden
  • This changed my life. Thank you sir!

    Brandon BraswellBrandon Braswell4 dagen geleden
    • Hello Brandon! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo2 dagen geleden
  • The closing remarks were intense, really good example for all to hear -- kids especially.

    pixelhidefpixelhidef5 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo Thank you for sharing your story; I've already shared it with my 11 year old son. He just joined junior high and he needs to know how to determine fact vs opinion. He's a sensitive kid so your video will help him understand how to deal with it all. Thank you!

      pixelhidefpixelhidef4 dagen geleden
    • Hello Pixelhidef, Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 dagen geleden
  • Vulnerable? No. It is just stating facts.

    Briseur De LanceBriseur De Lance5 dagen geleden
    • It's vulnerable in the sense that you show a part of yourself that is not strong, flawless or perfect.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 dagen geleden
  • The golden rule "Do unto others, as you would have them done unto you" This rule stays universal as always

    Roshan JimmyRoshan Jimmy5 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo whoa thats cool. The same guy who talked in the tedX is replying back to me.🤩 Thats sick

      Roshan JimmyRoshan Jimmy4 dagen geleden
    • indeed Roshan.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 dagen geleden
  • Kevin De Bruyne in 20 years

    Samuel AtteaSamuel Attea5 dagen geleden
    • haha Samuel. And on top, we're from the same country.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo4 dagen geleden
  • Hate futbol kno vai bujte parchina re erkum korle hobe kivabe vai bol vai valo lagto jodi r ektu valo korto tahole na hole noi

    DR AKDR AK5 dagen geleden
  • wow that last message was incredible

    Piper AllenPiper Allen6 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo Thank you, people like you keep me motivated to help myself because I forget to do that a lot of the time

      Piper AllenPiper Allen6 dagen geleden
    • Hello Piper Allen, Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo6 dagen geleden
  • SPM - Beans and Rice, his ego and his alter ego song.

    Chill WillChill Will6 dagen geleden
  • DR JIBOLA thanks for all that you do you really made it possible me to get rid of my herpes simplex virus with your herbal medication 🌱

    Victoria ChuVictoria Chu7 dagen geleden
  • good talk.

    NabilNabil7 dagen geleden
    • Hi Nabil, How nice to get such a gentle response on my TEDx talk. Thank you!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo6 dagen geleden
  • This was fantastic 👏👏👏

    Emiley LyndeEmiley Lynde7 dagen geleden
    • Hello Emiley, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo6 dagen geleden
  • احسنت …. الحياة صعبة

    HelloHello8 dagen geleden
  • I wish I had understood this message of his 25 years ago ! Hats off Frederik !!

    Suresh SoodSuresh Sood8 dagen geleden
    • Hello Suresh, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo8 dagen geleden
  • superb

    annaya debannaya deb9 dagen geleden
    • Thanks Annaya!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo8 dagen geleden
  • But sometimes it should be allowed to take it personally!!

    Marit Kristiane Haugan WickMarit Kristiane Haugan Wick9 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo i agree with you ,and I really learnt a lot from the video so thank you 😊

      Marit Kristiane Haugan WickMarit Kristiane Haugan Wick7 dagen geleden
    • Of course; everyone can decide whether they want to take something personally or not. I just want to inspire people who suffer when taking things personally, how to take things less personally.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo8 dagen geleden
  • nice

    Divya ParekhDivya Parekh9 dagen geleden
    • Thanks Divya.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo8 dagen geleden
  • This is mindblowing speech

    Komal KoulKomal Koul9 dagen geleden
    • Hello Komal, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo8 dagen geleden
  • He look like DaBaby!

    Ry CordovaRy Cordova9 dagen geleden
  • I work in customer service, it's hard not to take things personally

    Søren KierkegaardSøren Kierkegaard10 dagen geleden
    • Hi there! Absolutely; working with customers who are not always friendly and respectful is quite a challenge to NOT take things personally. However, I hope that my talk could inspire you a bit to not longer do it. Good luck!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Me to We I love it

    Adelei GraffinAdelei Graffin10 dagen geleden
    • Woohooo!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Wonderful

    Daniela ConteDaniela Conte10 dagen geleden
    • Hello Daniela, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Im here

    flytomybangtan𐤀 ̮̈flytomybangtan𐤀 ̮̈10 dagen geleden
    • Good!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • It's all because we ask for our own approval from people who are 💩

    priyanka sharmapriyanka sharma11 dagen geleden
  • The comment of "when you go home with a 9 out of 10, and they say why not 10???" Or they say its merely your obligation, it actually affects you a lot I just realised the extent of it

    Julia HallitJulia Hallit11 dagen geleden
    • Well done Julia!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Best talk i have ever heard✨✨

    Sanmati NSanmati N11 dagen geleden
    • Hello Sanmati, Thank you so much for your kind message and your huge compliment!!! I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • I never take personally

    MOTIVATION SHORTSMOTIVATION SHORTS11 dagen geleden
    • Wonderful!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Anyone came here from a loophole of MJ videos ?

    Nelson DumasNelson Dumas12 dagen geleden
    • Haha Nelson! At the same time; Michael Jordan was just trying to do his best. He was trying to deal with his unmet need for recognition. He just wanted to be appreciated.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • I am the guy that flashes hedlights behind you and I tell you that it is personaly!

    GoranGoran12 dagen geleden
    • Hi Goran. I even believe it gives you a good feeling at that moment. To not take responsibility for your anger. Much easier than to accept the reality as it is. And so you're dependent of what other people do or not do to feel good. Therefore I motivate people to not take things personally, to make them free and independent.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • I have learned so much from this, thank you

    FivE2SSFivE2SS13 dagen geleden
    • Hello FivE2SS, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • ok he's nice but that's not life works because this is what I have been doing and I'm taken advantage of

    shajia farhanashajia farhana13 dagen geleden
  • What a lovely guy.

    ZDWZDW13 dagen geleden
    • Thank you!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • This is really helpfull , thank you soo much! I Needed this..

    Diana CozmeniucDiana Cozmeniuc13 dagen geleden
    • Hello Diana, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • one of the best ted talks

    Tanvi BadadareTanvi Badadare13 dagen geleden
    • Hello Tanvi, Thank you so much for your kind message and huge compliment! I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Its all about me , all this world all this moment all this about me

    BITMAN CRYPTO 33BITMAN CRYPTO 3314 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo I ask you 1 Q: Do you prefer the other ppl on you ?! and Im not talking about comfortable situation , we talk about serious moments! WORK! RELATIONSHIP! FAMILY! BUSINESES! DEALS! ELC I hope you got my point!

      BITMAN CRYPTO 33BITMAN CRYPTO 339 dagen geleden
    • There are two ways to say 'it's all about me'; the one is the ego speaking, believing that everyone should make you happy. The other way is the opposite; to take your own responsibility for meeting your needs and over your feelings. I agree with you - sadly - that so many people are ego-centric and believe 'ME, myself and I!!!!!' which will make them never truly happy and which is toxic for our society.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • I raised my hand high sir! I always take things personally. it’s a habit. and it’s exhausting! Ouch! And yes I agree I am selfish. But i do want to make the world a better place. 🙏🏽

    Joddie DoganJoddie Dogan14 dagen geleden
    • Good luck Joddie!!!!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • This is so amazing!!

    Ngaakudzwe SigaukeNgaakudzwe Sigauke14 dagen geleden
    • Hello Ngaakudzwe Sigauke, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • The second strategy is effective, the problem though is that if I start expressing how I feel about it, others will take it personally 🥴

    Abdulrahman AlbuhayriAbdulrahman Albuhayri14 dagen geleden
    • Well, I do not mean this in a offensive way Abdulrahman, but if they take your words personally, that their problem. Everyone is responsible for their own feelings and making their needs met. However, if you feel balanced, you can even them empathy.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Looking at the thumbnail, I thought he would speak with a very thick London OR Scottish accent.

    Venn DiagramVenn Diagram14 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo Awesome! I loved your talk, Sir. It's deeply insightful. Thank you 💝

      Venn DiagramVenn Diagram9 dagen geleden
    • haha! I'm pure Belgian!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Full of Positivity, Great Talk!

    Kent AlvinataKent Alvinata15 dagen geleden
    • Hello Kent! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Ete

    Mandeep Kaur SandhuMandeep Kaur Sandhu15 dagen geleden
  • I love the content and his style also !!!

    SC Young Team TVSC Young Team TV15 dagen geleden
    • Hello 'SC Young Team TV'! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Awesome ❤️

    Norin KhanNorin Khan16 dagen geleden
    • Hello Norin, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • The speaker is really the greatest legend in the world...because he doesn't take things personally,...so he never tries to find his name in those lists because he doesn't have ego and he knows his value how important he is to his friends and family which he has to support. You have my respect Frederik. You have my respect. The whole world has its respect for you

    buro fosse1buro fosse116 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo dear sir, i find myself in such a great stress relieved life after i had started following your such a great speech. maybe i wasn't luck enough to attend you live but god so much wanted my life to become a bit more settled than before, that i was surfing some stuff on ted-ed for my school projects and i saw your tedx talk exactly on the right side side of my screen...first i read the title and thought that it may help me someway in my life so that i can be more stable mentally(my neighbours are too much toxic they say abusive words without any reason to me and my family almost everyday and they always find ways to make us uncomfortable and restless). and look at the almighty's power, it really did a lot! and i will continue to put your tips into my practice. i personally feel that there could be more than hundreds of people who are in the same scenario as me and i would definitely recommend your such a really helpful speech so that they could also have some stress relived. one more thing i wanted to tell you sir, as i saw this speech more than one and a half years later, i really didn't hope that you will check the comment section after such a long time and even reply to me but i still had one thing in mind that i must thank such a kind, nice and literally a legend person who spends his life improving others', and after you not only replied to my message, but also highlighted your reply, i am so much gratefull to you for motivating me(though after your speech i wouldn't take it personal if you didnt reply me:) ). May god bestow his blessings on you and your family and friends, may you and all of them reach at great success. A WARM THANKS TO YOU!

      buro fosse1buro fosse14 dagen geleden
    • Hello buro fosse1! Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • Great video. Awesome ending.

    Jason HolmanJason Holman16 dagen geleden
    • Hello Jason, Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • pls someone forcefully show this to genz

    Ameya BhosaleAmeya Bhosale16 dagen geleden
    • Hi Ameya, to who would you like to show it? To 'genz'? Who's that?

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • What's his name and is there anyway to be in touch with him. He blew my mind with his gentlemennes, he definitely is the kinda person anyone would want as the best friend.

    riz rizzzriz rizzz16 dagen geleden
  • Lol thought he'd say, ".... remember, you'll still be 20 euros"

    LalinaLalina17 dagen geleden
    • Haha! No! You're much more worth than 20 euros Lalina!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo10 dagen geleden
  • This is the information I want ,thankyou for sharing .

    killmongerkillmonger17 dagen geleden
    • Thank you for responding sir, You are doing a great job.

      killmongerkillmonger17 dagen geleden
    • Hello Killmonger, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo17 dagen geleden
  • "I'm in the middle of a story and you just walk away to switch on the tv" A lot of people won't take that well. Can't assume people are as reasonable as you.

    It All Happened So FastIt All Happened So Fast18 dagen geleden
    • ​@Frederik Imbo I've been thinking about what you said in this video a lot. Mostly in an arrogant "This simpleton thinks it's so easy, my situation is a lot more complicated." kind of way. I was sort of annoyed by you, even though I find you super likeable. I was in a fight when I watched this. I thought this video is not for me, it's for my wife... I must've dreamt of this video or something because I was still thinking about it when I woke up. Anyway, the low value of being right really stuck with me and it helped me get over myself and fix things with my wife. Also the cheesy 20€ bit is amazing. Thanks a lot man, I will show my wife also. Also I know I never actually called you a "simpleton", but I still want to apologize :P Groeten uit Finland en ik wens je al het beste!

      It All Happened So FastIt All Happened So Fast16 dagen geleden
    • Hi. The question is: do you want to be happy or right? The more you try to see the intention of the other person, the less you will take things personally.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo17 dagen geleden
  • Last Point was amazing Keep it up 👍

    Nabeel MalikNabeel Malik18 dagen geleden
    • Hello Nabeel, Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo17 dagen geleden
  • Amazing 🙏🏼

    JohniepeeJohniepee18 dagen geleden
    • Hello Johniepee, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo18 dagen geleden
  • Great talk ! He really talks sense

    Vallad CODMVallad CODM19 dagen geleden
    • Hello Vallad Codm, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo18 dagen geleden
  • Wow. Frederik has pretty much changed my over-sensitive life. Kudos to him.

    Alyza KashifAlyza Kashif19 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo My goodness! I'm surprised my comment actually reached you. I'm touched that you actually took the time to reply. And of course you are welcome, Frederick. That is some really good advice and I will definitely keep it in mind and share your video with as many people as I can - and hope they don't take the recommendation personally :D From the bottom of my heart, Alyza Kashif

      Alyza KashifAlyza Kashif18 dagen geleden
    • Hello Alyza, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo18 dagen geleden
  • Beautiful philosophy unfolded beautifully!

    ASMITA PAWARASMITA PAWAR19 dagen geleden
    • Hello ASMITA PAWAR, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • I am here watching this because of one of my friends advised me to learn how not to take things personally. This presentation helped me to overcome many of my mental issues I am suffering from these day 🤍thank you 😊

    ibtissem benhammadaibtissem benhammada19 dagen geleden
    • Hello Ibtissem benhammada, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you and helped you to overcome some of your mental issues. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • really wonderful video. thank you so much for this

    Hetvi MerchantHetvi Merchant19 dagen geleden
    • Hello Hetvi, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • Practice improving progressing my/your emotional intelligence pretty much

    I’m dumb for responding butI’m dumb for responding but19 dagen geleden
  • this is probably the best and most effective tedtalk ive seen :) will definitely be coming back to this video every time i take things personally

    wallflowerwallflower19 dagen geleden
    • Hello wallflower, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • amazing

    wallflowerwallflower19 dagen geleden
  • Take an antidepressant

    Athena NinaAthena Nina19 dagen geleden
  • Every single person on this planet has forgotten this and it's exhausting.

    bigfishbovvlbigfishbovvl20 dagen geleden
    • True. Please share the message!

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • This guy's creeps me out so hard he is a fricking sociopath, wtf it's just so very toxic, should not be a Ted talker

    Neshu neshuificationNeshu neshuification20 dagen geleden
  • holy best best-loved it ❤❤

    Roft Is LoftRoft Is Loft20 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo thank you so much sir i really liked the way you gave the speech and will surely try to impliment all those tips you taught on the video and thank you so much you really helped me out with this one and also thank you sir for this lovely reply back much love and respect sir ❤

      Roft Is LoftRoft Is Loft19 dagen geleden
    • Hello Roft Is Loft, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • 20 euros to referee soccer? That's about $25. I get paid a lot more to officiate games.

    Kit HutchinsonKit Hutchinson20 dagen geleden
    • Good for you.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • This guy took things personally that he made a whole ted talk about it

    Fil MoreFil More21 dag geleden
    • True.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • This is simply “WOW WOW WOW WOW”

    Abass AkinsanyaAbass Akinsanya21 dag geleden
    • Hello Abass, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo19 dagen geleden
  • I will always remember that this is the first ted talk that made me cry

    LizLiz21 dag geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo I just watched your TED talk and I loved it; it was perfectly timed for me as I have just had a major set back at work. I have taken it very personally but I will try my best to continue to see my value. Do you have any further tips on how to do this? Thank you for your positivity.

      Marie FletcherMarie Fletcher2 dagen geleden
    • ​@Frederik Imbo Hello, I did not expect your response. However, I'd like to say, you wouldn't believe how much this video affects me, so much truth you've told in there and how well you resonate with the audience. I shared this video on my Instagram story right after I watched it. I am sure, some people need to hear this as much as I do. You're an amazing speaker. Warm regards, Liz

      LizLiz17 dagen geleden
    • Hello Liz, Thank you so much for your kind message. How sweet share that the Ted talk made you cry. I hope that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • This man is great Loved the way he defined so much truth about us ❤️

    Sakshi Priya DubeySakshi Priya Dubey21 dag geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo I seriously never imagined that you could reply to my comment that's so modest of you And really thanks to make us realize when we are not right and I appreciate that positive mind of yours which even motivates others to go on path of positivity you are genuinely great Love and Respect for you

      Sakshi Priya DubeySakshi Priya Dubey21 dag geleden
    • Hello Sakshi, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • thankyou for an amazing speech fredrik!!!!

    SheriffSheriff21 dag geleden
    • Hello Sheriff, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • I am sorry for being grumpy to the check-out guy today. It was early and I do not like being touched (it was the just the shoulder). I'll be more British-like and just curse people in my head from now on.

    808 EN Co808 EN Co22 dagen geleden
  • That happens a lot when I drive

    Gheorghe O'NadociaGheorghe O'Nadocia22 dagen geleden
    • Hi Gheorghe. Well, hopefully now you have two strategies that can help you to no longer take it personally when you're driving.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • ...And I took that personally.

    The SingtaristThe Singtarist22 dagen geleden
    • haha! Please don't.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • just amazing

    ADI PandeyADI Pandey22 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo to be honest this was the best TEDx Talk i have heard it was really amazing Insane hope you keep doing more talks

      ADI PandeyADI Pandey21 dag geleden
    • Hello ADI Pandey, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • best ted talk in history

    60 pingX60 pingX22 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo Hello. Thank you very much for your answer! You are a very wise man. Unfortunately, I have been feeling very bad for a year. I feel a big pain in my heart. I have traumas but I don't know how to heal them. I found out that I should love myself, but I hate myself. I am 17 years old and my dream is to become president. Unfortunately, nobody listens to me because I'm not intelligent and my character is funny. :(

      60 pingX60 pingX21 dag geleden
    • Hello 60 pingX, Thank you so much for your kind message and huge compliment. Wow. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • the last demonstration hit me so hard...good talk man good talk

    Ariful RabbiAriful Rabbi23 dagen geleden
    • @Frederik Imbo Thanks man..thanks for the warm reply❤

      Ariful RabbiAriful Rabbi21 dag geleden
    • Hello Ariful Rabbi, Thank you for your kind note! I'm glad you liked the end of my TEDx talk with the 20 Euro bill and the fact that your value always remains the same no matter what people do or say to you. So thanks for watching until the end! I wish you good luck in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and will give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's okay. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • Those who are especially sensitive and vulnerable,are more attacked by others. A person's essence is cruel and strange.

    Зулейха АзимоваЗулейха Азимова23 dagen geleden
    • Hi. I believe that a person is only cruel, because he lacks self love and doesn't have the power or perseverance to do something about it. In that case it's easier to blame and hurt others.

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • why is the crowd so dead. so disappointing

    MixchowmowMixchowmow23 dagen geleden
    • Hi Mixchowmow, The audience was rather quiet indeed. That is because hardly any sound was recorded from the reactions in the room. As a result, some reactions were added afterwards in the editing. The silent audience makes many suspect that they didn't find it interesting ... And you know, that's possible. Or they didn't like my style, or they were tired, or... or... Anyway; whatever the reason was, luckily I didn't take that personally :-)

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
  • I appreciate this guy's vulnerability so much. I think every human feels this at some point, and these are great tools to tackle the issues with.

    Vertebrate AliVertebrate Ali23 dagen geleden
    • Hello Ali, Thank you so much for your kind message. I'm glad to read that watching my TEDx talk was valuable to you. I wish you much success in putting the insights and tips into practice. Sometimes it will work and give you a sense of peace and victory over yourself. At other times it will be less easy and frustrating. That's ok. Then be gentle with yourself and most of all be proud of the progress you are making. I encourage you! Please share the TEDx talk with your friends and colleagues. The more people I can reach, the more people will live in harmony with themselves and others. From the bottom of my heart, Frederik Imbo

      Frederik ImboFrederik Imbo21 dag geleden
    • true mate

      SheriffSheriff21 dag geleden